Doing Bid`ah for the deceased

A: You have to continue advising your mother kindly and tenderly, visiting and being dutiful to her, and always greet her even if she does not answer your greetings, but beware of obeying her in disobeying Allah. If she accepts your advice, that will be good and Praise be to Allah! If she persists in committing unlawful things, you should treat her kindly according to the Saying of Allah (Exalted be He), And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship ... ...but behave with them in the world kindly Your advising her is not an act of showing ingratitude to her even if she feels angry with you as long as you give her advice kindly and through fair preaching.May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.